There is another type of shame. Mom shamming. Judging a parent you do not know is the surest way to have karma come spill a sippy cup on your laptop. Just take a moment and see the big picture. And even if you don’t understand, don’t judge, because at one point you have been there or will be there.
Shamming needs to stop. What is that saying, we all are a hot mess, some are just better at hiding it than others. Can I get an Amen! Now, I am going to call myself out here. My first reaction is to judge. However, since this whole parenting thing happened, my self-righteousness has had a reality check. Most moms are doing the best they can. (Well, most. That’s a different topic for another time.) To the mom walking through the grocery store while their child throws a tantrum in the middle of the aisle, I applaud you for not losing your cool. Or to the mom on her phone at the park, let’s be real, how many times can you really be entertained by your child going down the slide? Keep on Pinteresting for enjoyment!
What mothers really need is a rallying support system. They need to not feel guilty for getting their nails done, or buying a new shirt, or admitting they need some time alone. Just because moms are superheros, doesn’t mean they are immune to societies unrealistic demands for perfection all the time. Moms, let’s try a little something here, let’s try a fist pump or high five instead of an eye roll. Just see what comes from it. #momlife!